In traditional dating, a man and woman meet each other, decide they want to get to know each other better and start dating. Once their relationship has reached a serious point, they meet each other’s parents. In Muslim dating, the Koran and its tenets influence every aspect of the relationship, the engagement, marriage and premarital sex.
Muslim dating rules
Under the Muslim faith, single men and women can’t be alone together. The belief is that when eligible Muslim men and women see each other without a chaperon present, the devil is also present, in the form of sexual temptation, according to Search Your Love. Young couples who respect the tents of their faith and of the Koran arrange to meet with a chaperon present. The Islamic faith frowns heavily on unchaperoned dating and premarital sex, hence the presence of a family member as a chaperon.
Dating with Chaperons
Even Muslim couples that are already engaged to marry cannot spend time alone together. This is a clear violation of their faith and of teaching in the Koran, according to the Adherents website. So that they can spend time together without violating their beliefs, young Muslim couples bring along a family member as a chaperon. According to the Adherents website, families are greatly involved in the dating process and in the marriage. The families have to like the person their relative is about to marry; the chaperon arrangement allows members of both families to get to know their child’s intended spouse.
Short, Early Engagements
Muslim couples that decide to get married become engaged early, once they know they are compatible. Because of the Muslim stricture against premarital sex, the entire dating and engagement process is supervised, with the couple participating in group outings with friends, according to the Families website. During their engagement, a Muslim couple might not even exchange kisses until their wedding day. Again, this is done so that the couple doesn’t risk facing the temptation for premarital sex.
Muslims have developed a method of Muslim dating that falls within the confines of their faith and the Koran, called “Halal” dating. In this form of dating, young men and women are introduced to each other by family or parents. To help them get to know each other better, they spend time talking on the phone, interact via the Internet and go out on group dates or as a couple with a chaperon, writes Search Your Love. Once they decide that they want to spend their lives together, the couple signs a marriage contract, called a “nikah.” This contract is as binding as the actual marriage and allows the couple to spend more time with each other. Halal dating gives Muslim dating couples the chance to develop a clear understanding and agreement that they are in a committed relationship and will marry each other.